I’ve always been rubbed the wrong way when hearing “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” but never quite sure why. Maybe because it’s an absolute and those are virtually impossible to prove true. There are exceptions to most every rule.
Recently, it hit me. As I was navigating the single gal dating waters yet again and commiserating with others in pond, I found that many folks have a story to tell.
As they ramble on, yes ramble, a common theme emerged. After sharing a tale of woe playing the role of victim with their ex stepping in as the villain, the story concludes with why they’ll never find love. They make decisions about the lack of good candidates, the moral fiber of men or women and other epitaphs around trustability.
I think that it’s easier to end the story here. Hobbled by a poor decision.
The harder path is to ask what that experience taught you and what you need to do to learn the lessons from the experience. That’s the work that’ll “make you stronger”.