Have you found yourself here lately?
You’re knee-deep into feeling insecure or not enough. It’s a familiar place. You’ve been here so often before in fact, that you’ve been given an assigned parking space.
It’s uncomfortably comfortable. It’s what you know.
Someone who has your best interest at heart and probably loves you is at your side. They tell you how wonderful you are and that what you are feeling isn’t the truth. Why can’t you see what they see in you?
You can hear their voice and they’re speaking your language, but you can’t understand what they’re saying. Remember watching the Peanuts cartoons and when the adults would talk it sounded as if they were underwater? It sounds like that. Your logical brain can understand the words but to your ears or your heart, it’s just garbled noise.
You don’t see yourself the way that the world sees you. It’s nothing personal, no one does 100% of the time. But you can learn to do it at 97%.
Here’s what I’ve learned: Our nature or wiring has us searching for the proof of our self-worth outside of ourselves or in how we show up the world. We race around trying to accomplish the “thing” that will finally validate us, the income, body size, the car or where we live, and so on.
It’s a waste of energy because if we do achieve the goal, we’ll only reset the mark and create a new “thing”.
We will never be enough.
What I realized not long ago is that our true value and everything we are designed to be is already located inside of us. It is in there and waiting. We just need to locate it, own it and let it expand.
Again and again and again. Until it becomes our truth.
It is buried inside, sometimes very deep and there are moments when it peeks out. Like in those times when you just know that you are incredible and you can hang to that for minute or two until it slips out of reach. Or you daydream of what you can accomplish and the inspiration and momentum lifts and propels you as far as you’ll let it.
These are the moments when you own your value. The goal is to live and breathe from this place 97% of the time.
When you find yourself disconnected and looking outside of yourself for the solution, take a moment to pause and look inside yourself. Remember those moments of clarity and plug yourself back into those feelings.
This is where the solution lies. And I promise that the more often you catch yourself in the mire and repeat this practice, the more it will take hold and become your unconscious go-to.
We have the ability to rewire our brains and your lack of self-worth isn’t hardwired.
Celebrating your success.